FIVE YEARS ( + 2 = 7 )

“The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvellous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.”

♥  Rainer Maria Rilke  ♥ 

A week ago, we were forced to evacuate our home at 1 AM when the Thomas fire started creeping over Sulphur Mountain towards our property. As we drove out of Ojai, to our left the entire ridge that separates Ojai from Ventura was in flames. Visibility on highway 101 was already poor because of the smoke. Junior was in the back seat crying, Mr Mr was running all sorts of scenarios out loud. All I cared about is that we were out of there and on our way to safety. Without fail, everyone asked me what I had grabbed and the truth is, that while we had loads of time before departing, aside from a weekender full of jeans, t-shirts, shoes and toiletries (which is pretty much always packed and ready to go), all I took were the box of my wedding photos, an original photo of my parents on their wedding day, and one of me and my brother. Faced with the possible loss of all your personal belongings, I nabbed what so many people do; family photographs.

While Mr Mr returned the following morning to Ojai to stay with our house and protect the property by setting up a defense perimeter, Junior and I headed even further south to better air. In the end, most of Ojai was spared, there wasn’t a single loss of property on our road, and the incredible, tireless firefighters did an excellent job of keeping Thomas away from our town.

I’ve lived in Ojai for nearly 6.5  years now. An urbanite to the core, I can nevertheless appreciate its natural beauty and the respite it offers me from my hard going travels. As it is the home of My Mr + My Monkey, it is now also my home. These past 7 years have been filled with so much love, so much generosity, adventure, kindness, and spiritual evolution. I am married to the most spectacular human being I have ever known. Not a day goes by that I don’t consider this a complete miracle, one for which  I am deeply grateful.

My life is filled to the brim with so many blessings.

♥ ♥ ♥ I love you, Mr Mr! ♥ ♥ ♥

♥ ♥ ♥ I love you, MonkeyDoodle! ♥ ♥ ♥


all photographs |  ♥ Roger Thompson ♥